Fannish 50 seems like a fun challenge and I've been feeling nostalgic for the picspam days of yore, so I'm going to do a 10 Favorite photos... type thing.



( 10 Favorite Instagram Photos - Barcode Tinnasit )

In your own space, rec three fanworks that you did not create.

I've been super into fanvids lately and the BL fandom has some stunning ones. ( Fanvids )

In your own space, talk about your favorite trope, cliché, kink, motif, or theme.

In an attempt to figure out what the heck I like (having one of those days in which I'm completely disconnected from myself), I scrolled through my AO3 and thought back to past ships and dynamics.

Here's what I've concluded I like:

1. Best friends falling in love
   
2. Really emotional porn
   
3. D/s dynamics in which the sub is super bratty/demanding
   
4. Older/younger, experienced/inexperienced
   
5. Opposites attract or "the sunshine one is in love with the grumpy one"

And that's all I have to say about that.

It's been a while since I've let myself reflect in this way.

I do not take care of myself.

I have never consistently taken care of myself.

I do not shower regularly. I rarely put on deodorant. I don't brush my teeth or wash my face. I eat junk food and fast food daily. I don't move my body. I don't take vitamins. I sit for eight hours at work and then come home and lie in bed for a few hours before going to sleep. It hurts my back to stand, my hip to walk and my knees to climb stairs. I treat my body like I hate it. And the result is that I end up hating it even more.

I started seeing a new therapist recently. I had worked very closely with my previous therapist for four years and last January he told me he was no longer taking insurance. We did really deep work together (Internal Family Systems therapy if you're interested) and he helped me change my life. I found the courage to come out to my family and live openly and honestly. I applied for a graduate program and am two terms from finishing. I published my first piece in my program’s literary journal. I spent three weeks at Oxford, taking a summer creative writing course. I moved out of a tiny studio into a lovely house. So many beautiful things happened as a result of our work together. But through it all, I never started taking better care of my body.

I have put off trying to address this for so long that I don’t even know where to begin

When I was 11, my mom brainwashed me into believing that I’ll never be worthy of love as long as I'm fat. Taking care of myself translates to "losing weight" in my head. I'm the heaviest I've ever been. I'm also at my happiest. But still, somehow, I hate myself. Despite everything I've been through, from barely surviving to thriving (most days - I'm still mentally ill, neurodivergent, highly sensitive, and an empath (it’s exhausting feeling everyone’s emotions)) I know that if she were alive, my mom would hate how big I am. Nothing I did mattered because all she could see was my size. And her brainwashing was so effective because it was disguised as love. "It's so hard to see you so big," she said when I came home from college for the summer. And then when she turned to leave, she said "I love you, Lo, I'm so glad you're home."

I'm pretty messed up about what love is and what it looks like. And I don't love myself because I still believe what she taught me - that no one will ever love me if I'm fat.

I push through this belief daily now, thanks to therapy and my graduate classes, where people ask to spend time with me, want to be my friend despite being nearly 350 pounds. I challenge these thoughts every time a friend asks me to dinner or texts me to say they're thinking about me. But I don't know how to challenge these thoughts for myself, to push past them and believe that I should take a shower or put on deodorant, eat something that will make me feel good instead of sluggish and terrible, not because someone tells me to or society expects it of me but because this is the way you treat yourself when you love yourself.

I would never say any of the things I repeatedly say to myself to anyone. I would intervene if I heard someone say “you’re disgusting” to someone I loved. Why can’t I do that for myself? Will I be sixty, seventy, eighty, still treating myself like I’ve done something horrible instead of simply trying to exist in a body that the person who was supposed to love me would be ashamed of?

I think sometimes the goddess (I call her the goddess of light and love – she is my attempt to take back my belief in a power greater than myself) brings my attention to things in the moments I need them most. I was sparked by an email from Self Love Rainbow and a PDF called Self Care for Beginners. It’s been sitting in my inbox, unread. I came to work a few hours early to get organized for the week and spent some time clearing out my gmail. I found the PDF towards the end of the email. I haven't read it yet, but the title really struck me because it was a reminder that I'm not the only one who doesn't know how to love myself. And like validation of any kind, it made me feel less like a freak who can’t manage basic personal hygiene and more like a human who is trying my best.

I guess I wrote this to sort out my feelings but I'm posting it in hopes someone might read it and relate, maybe feel less alone or be a little kinder to themselves in the way they speak.

If you read this and have any resources that you have found helpful, I'd love it if you shared them with me.

In your own space, post the results of your fandom scavenger hunt. Leave a comment in this post saying you did it. Include a link to your post if you feel comfortable doing so.

Search in your current space, whether brick-and-mortar or digital. Post a picture or description of something that is or represents:

1. A favorite character
2. Something that makes you laugh
3. A bookshelf
4. A game or hobby you enjoy
5. Something you find comforting
6. A TV show or movie you hope more people will watch
7. A piece of clothing you love
8. A thing from an old fandom
9. A thing from a new fandom( This was fun )

In your own space, tell us about 3 creative/fannish resources, spaces, or communities you use or enjoy.

I get so much help and inspiration re: writing on Tumblr, so here are three of my favorite resources.

• heywriters This is one of the most well-known writing accounts and there's so many helpful posts and tips.


• creativepromptsforwriting She writes and compiles super thorough and helpful prompt lists for literally anything you could want or need. This is an invaluable resource for me when I want to write but need a prompt.


• prompts-in-a-barrel Really great daily dialogue prompts.

Welp, it's January 1st which means I'm dusting this ole thing off and seeing if this is the year I stop lurking in fandom and re-engage.

Note to self - posts I want to make:

• Goals for January (and I will NOT make a weightloss goal)


• Goals for 2023 (a lot's coming up this year, trying to organize my thoughts)


• 2022 in Review (what a shitty year and also some pretty good shit happened)


• Reading Goals (because what's a new year without another attempt to read more)

Off to Snowflake and sign up for challenges there's a 93% chance I'll flake on.

Happy New Year, friends. I hope there's light and joy and peace in your lives in the coming year. ♥ ♥ ♥

In 2017, for a reason I still don't understand, I orphaned all of AO3 works. I still regretted it.

I went through my old Tumblr's masterlist and found most of them. I'm posting the links here, mostly for my own interest.

( Masterlist of Orphaned Works )</>

Challenge #10

In your own space, rec a fanwork (fic, art, vid, playlist, anything!) you did not create.

I haven't ready much fic recently, if I read any during 2021.

Here are a couple of vids I've loved recently.